eye, she had to admit that, at best, she was simply deceived by an inane cult, and, at worst, she was a naive buffoon. She did neither. And we never heard from Cindy and Jeff again. What went wrong? Obviously, the problem was me. It was a classic case of “winning the battle but losing the war.” I had all the answers, but that only meant that I was half trained. What I lacked was gentleness (1 Peter 3:15b) and communication skills (2 Tim. 2:24–25). Had I used my apologetics sword properly, I would